Keep your Shakespeare, we all know that the true literary genius of our time is the person who can master the sext. Sexting is a delicate art form that not everyone gets right straight away, but with a little practice, you’ll soon be sending NSFW messages to your other half with ease.
Sexting is great for long distance relationships, foreplay, and for bringing back the honeymoon phase to a stagnant relationship. There’s nothing hotter that receiving a dirty text half way through a boring day at the office and feeling your pulse racing as you make your way home. If you’re ready to amp up the fantasy in your relationship, follow these simple steps to better sexts.
The important thing to remember with sexting is that you need to be subtle, seductive and smooth. It isn’t rocket science, but it is something you will probably want to practice to finesse your technique. Remember, always test the water before sending your first sext as you could be catching the other person at a bad time, such as in the car with their parents. Send a scoping text first letting them know you can’t stop thinking about the last time you were intimate. If the response is immediate and saucy, you know you’ve got the green light to start seducing them with your fingertips.
Typos can kill the moment, so make sure you check your spelling and punctuation before you hit send. Full caps and excessive exclamation points can come across as aggressive and loud, which is the exact opposite of subtle and seductive, so use with caution.
The little cartoon aubergine and plushy peach are so widespread these days that they have lost their cheeky appeal. Steer clear of emoji unless you are confident you can pull it off without seeming like you’re too shy to say a dirty word. Good sexting is all about confidence, so don’t fall back on using an aubergine emoji. It’s far hotter to say the word.
Sexting is something that you should devote some time to. You don’t want to fire off a dirty text while you’re bored and then leave them hanging while you go and do housework. If you’re getting ready to start a sexting marathon, make sure you are ready and available to respond. If you’re planning to initiate anything while at work, make sure being on your phone isn’t going to be noticeable or problematic.
Send nudes with caution. You should never feel pressured to send nudes to another person, but if you do decide to send something, it doesn’t have to reveal everything. A suggestive lingerie picture or a close up of your lips can be just as enticing as a nude. And then you don’t have to worry about the other person accidentally letting anyone else see your photo!
You might be sitting on your sofa watching Goggle Box in your comfiest clothes, but they don’t need to know that! The classic “what are you doing” and “what are you wearing” questions are the perfect opportunity to engage in a little fantasy. So instead of being on the sofa with a pint of ice cream, maybe you’ve just got out of the shower, or you’re laying in bed wearing a racy little teddy.
Remember, sexting is all about fantasy, so you can afford to get out of your comfort zone a bit. You aren’t committing to doing anything you wouldn’t normally, so don’t worry about a sext making things awkward in the bedroom. If you’re concerned that the other person is taking it too seriously, don’t be afraid to hit the brakes. But at the same time, don’t be too coy.
Remember, sexting is supposed to be fun, so if you aren’t having fun then it might not be for you! There are plenty of other ways to build intimacy in your relationship, so don’t worry if sexting doesn’t feel right to you. That said, it’s worth trying it at least once in your life or you’ll never know if it’s right for you.