There’s plenty of statistics floating around about freshers and sex. Around 18% of freshers had their first sexual encounter at university. 50% of Sheffield University students had sex in their first week. 39% of freshers started uni in a relationship but less than half were with the same person by the end of the first term.
This makes sense, as heading off to uni is usually the first time you’ve lived away from home. An abundance of drinking and all that extra freedom usually means one thing: you’re free to have sex whenever you like.
How to have better sex at uni
This type of freedom can be overwhelming, particularly if you aren’t feeling too confident or sure of yourself. If you want to make sure you’re making the right choices and not settling for clumsy fumbles in the dark with strangers, follow these simple tips...
There’s a lot of pressure to be popular and well-liked when you first arrive at uni. This can stop you from being yourself and may even push you out of your comfort zone. Just remember that everyone is in the same boat and try to just relax and be yourself. You’re going to meet a lot of people in the first few months of uni, and you don’t have to make them all your best friend.
Stock up on essentials
Keep a healthy supply of condoms in your bedside table. No one needs to know they are there, and it doesn’t make you a “slut” to stock up. It makes you safe and much less likely to contract an STD. If you want to avoid waiting in line at a sexual health clinic in your second week of uni, then make sure you’re stocked up from day one.
You don’t have to suffer through awkward fumbling sex. Don’t be afraid to speak up and ask for what you really want. The only party will probably appreciate some pointers. If you’re not sure about how to ask for what you want in the bedroom, why not try these easy icebreakers?
Don’t send nudes
Unless you’re in a committed relationship with someone you trust, it’s best to leave the sexting alone. A survey revealed that 55% of people who received a sext showed the content to at least one more person. If you want to avoid nudes making the rounds at your university, just don’t send them.
Enjoy some solo time
You might hit a dry spell, or you might just want to enjoy some alone time. Masturbation is a healthy sexual act that can actually help you to up your game when the time comes to bring a partner into the mix. Women should consider using their newfound freedom to pick out their first vibrator. This bedside table essential might make you think twice about bringing that questionable guy home from the club at 2 am as you’ll be able to have far more fun solo. Follow our guide to choosing your ideal vibrator.
Forget your body hang-ups
A lot of people get stressed about their bodies for no reason. If someone likes you with your clothes on, they’re going to like you with your clothes off. If you want to really impress someone, upgrading your underwear to some fancy lingerie is a subtle and confidence-boosting trick. Check out our guide to choosing the right lingerie for your body type.
Don’t neglect your health
It can be tempting to live on a diet of pasta and cheap cider, but you need to make sure you are taking good care of your health. You’re far more likely to get injured during sex if you are in bad shape, so make healthy eating and exercise a priority. If you want to know which exercises can help you perform better between the sheets, check out our guide.
As long as you’re practising safe sex and respecting the boundaries of those you meet, there’s no reason you should have to suffer bad or awkward sex throughout uni. Remember, everyone is in the same boat as you, and as much as someone might be full of bravado, most people are inexperienced and just exploring the world of sex for the first time. Have fun, and don’t get too hung up on the little things!