Getting to grips with bondage and spanking for the first time can be difficult territory. For starters, you have to make sure this is something that your partner even wants. Get this wrong, and you could be left red in the face with an angry partner in your bed.
It’s a lot of new territory, but it’s also an exciting way to shake things up. If you feel like your bedroom antics have become stale or routine, learning how to tie and tease your partner could help to spice things up. You don’t have to dress up in leather or latex. You don’t need any special equipment. And you don’t need to take it all too seriously. So if you’re ready to try something new in the bedroom, read on to learn how to tie and tease your partner for the first time.
How to tie and tease your partner
First things first: do you have their consent? Heading into bondage territory without running it by your partner first could land you in a world of trouble. You don’t have to go into too much detail about what you’re planning to do, but let your partner know that you’d like to try restraints and spanking.
You should also agree on a safe word you can use if anyone feels uncomfortable. This will allow you to get lost in your fantasy without hurting your partner physically or emotionally. Remember that any games of control and dominance need to be handled in the correct way. And if anyone uses the safe word, you have to be prepared to stop whatever you are doing.
Use items from around the house
When you’re new to bondage and spanking, you might think you need to need a whole new box of toys to get the job done. But you’d be surprised what items you have around the house that can achieve the exact same results.
When you want to tie up your partner, look for things like silk ties for a soft and sensual restraint. A sleep mask makes the perfect blindfold. And a dressing gown cord can be used to tie hands to a bedpost quite easily. For bondage spankers, reach for a paddle hairbrush, a ruler or even a wooden spoon. Anything with a wide surface area and a long handle can make the perfect spanker.
Explore bondage spankers
Once you’ve introduced spanking and bondage into your bedroom antics, you might be keen to upgrade to something built for purpose. A bondage spanker is the perfect addition to your bedside table in this situation.
A leather paddle is the perfect place to start. Leather is a long-lasting material that feels film but sensual. It warms to the touch and softens over time, so you’ll be sure to get plenty of years out of this type of bondage spanker.
You could also try a leather riding crop for a firmer spank, or a leather flogger that will allow you to tease them with the soft flowing tails before delivering a sharp whip. And finally, a feather tickler is the perfect way to tickle your partner into submission.
For professional restraints, try cheap bondage tape, which sticks to itself instead of your skin. Or you could explore Japanese style bondage with silk ropes. And finally, under-bed or over-door restraints will help to transform your bedroom into a bondage lair.
Discover more spankers, paddles and canes
Once bondage and spanking become a regular part of your bedroom vocabulary, you’ll soon be adding to your collection. There’s no shortage of spankers, paddles and canes available that will bring a new thrill to the bedroom. With a growing collection of paddles and restraints, you’ll always find a way to keep things interesting in the bedroom.
You’ll get to explore the tactile delights of firm leather paddles alongside the soft embrace of an open-loop leather paddle. Or you could embrace your softer side with this velvet padded spanker with a romantic heart motif.
Whatever your choice of spankers, paddles and canes, make sure you care for your toys just as you would with fetish wear by keeping leather well conditioned and storing it in a cool, dark place out of direct sunlight. With proper care, your bondage spankers could last a lifetime.