One of the most unexpected sources of inspiration for your next round of bedroom antics could actually be found on TV. Charlotte from Sex and the City introduced us to the rabbit vibrator while 50 Shades of Grey introduced us to, well, everything else. Today, we’re going to look at another inspired piece of TV history.
When Abbi Jacobson donned her strap on harness in an episode of Broad City, she was crowned the queen of pegging. It was suddenly okay to have a conversation about this often shunned side of sexual exploration. If this scene in modern TV history has inspired you, here’s everything you need to know about strap ons.
A strap on is designed to mimic the look and experience of having a penis, but they aren’t just for those who don’t have a penis. Strap ons are incredibly versatile and can be used by men on men, men on women, women on men and women on women for any number of encounters. They can be used anally, vaginally, orally or for masturbation.
A strap on is typically a dildo attached to the body using a harness. There are also innovative new strap ons which can be worn by women which are worn internally and have an external dildo.
As we outlined above, anyone can use a strap on. Men can use them if they suffer from erectile dysfunction or want to enjoy more stamina in the bedroom. These strap ons will have a hollow dildo which fits over the penis.
Strap ons can also be used to subvert the gender roles. Women can wear them to penetrate either gender. If you feel like you’ve run out of ideas in the bedroom, a strap on can offer new avenues to explore.
There are three main types of strap on harness. These are:
Jockstrap
Thong
Underwear
A jockstrap harness wraps around the waist and then over each bum cheek. A thong has a strap around the waist and then a strap between the legs and bum. And an underwear strap on will be worn like a pair of boxers or boy shorts.
Some strap ons will have a single dildo attached and others will have a flexible rubber O ring in the front which allows you to change the dildo provided it is the right size. And finally, there are also innovative vacuum lock systems which will hold the dildo firmly in place.
When choosing your strap on harness, pay close attention to the materials. You could be wearing this harness for a long time, so you want to make sure it will be comfortable. It also needs to offer a tight fit so that you have better control over the dildo.
For a long lasting strap on harness, choose a leather harness. This will soften over time and will be adjustable so you can always achieve the perfect fit. If you prefer not to wear leather, or if you’re looking for a budget friendly alternative, a nylon harness could be the right choice. Some harnesses will also have neoprene padding so you can be sure it will never rub you the wrong way.
If you are buying the toy as a couple, we would recommend letting the person getting penetrated choose the toy. As a general rule, you should make sure you toy is made from body safe and non porous materials.
Over time, you may wish to grow your collection with a range of probes and even vibrating dildos. You will just need to make sure that any new toys you add to your collection have a suction cup base and are the right size for the O ring on your harness.
There are 2 elements to strap on care: the harness and the dildo. After use, make sure you dismantle your harness from the dildo for proper cleaning and care. This will allow you to clean the dildo and store it safely.
A leather harness can be wiped clean and conditioned with a leather cleaner to keep it soft and supple while a nylon harness may even be machine washable. Always check the instructions for your particular harness.
