Sex toys are still a bit of a taboo topic in lots of circles. Some people are completely embarrassed by the concept, while others consider them to be something that only the most sexually liberated can enjoy.
The truth is that sex toys can spice up any relationship and help individuals to gain a better understanding of what turns them on. They are great for solo use, but can also bring a bit of spice to your relationship.
There’s no reason to fear sex toys or to feel intimidated by them. The best thing about modern sex toys is the huge variety available. A little bit of exploration should help you to find something that resonates with your mood.
To help you get over your fear of sex toys, we’re addressing some of the most common myths we hear about them, so you can finally embrace your sexual exploration.
Up first, there’s the myth that sex toys are only put to use by single people, as if they are a replacement for a partner. There are plenty of couples that make use of sex toys while they are together and that use them individually, while still in a couple. There’s nothing to be ashamed about when it comes to using sex toys, and it doesn’t mean that you’re a sad singleton.
Single people can get great use out of sex toys and it can help them to remain sexually active when they aren’t in a relationship. But there’s no reason to worry that you’ll start to prefer this over human contact. The truth is that sex toys are very different to sharing your bed with another person.
This myth will often prevent women from bringing sex toys into the bedroom, as they worry what it will say about their partner. While some men might feel insecure about their partner’s vibe, this is really down to their insecurities, and it doesn’t have to mean that their partner is stating that they are dissatisfied.
Sex toys are often used by adventurous couples to spice things up and make it quicker and easier for one partner to reach orgasm at the same time. Very few women can achieve orgasm from penetration alone, so some form of clitoral stimulation can help to tip them over the edge.
This is another dangerous myth. There is the fear that once you start using sex toys, nothing else will feel as good and you might struggle to achieve orgasm without them. If you reached orgasm with ease before you started using sex toys, this won’t change. However, if you struggled to achieve orgasm before you used sex toys, you might find it even more frustrating once you try without your trusty toy.
Nothing is different except for your perception of what is possible. So you won’t become dependent on sex toys, but you might find that you prefer how easy they make it for you to experience incredible pleasure – and why would you want to deny yourself that?
There are lots of ways that sex toys can be useful for more than just sexual release. Some toys can help you to last longer in the bedroom, which can be helpful for men experiencing premature ejaculation. There are also toys designed to strengthen the pelvic floor, which can help women to maintain better control over their bladder, particularly after child birth.
So while sex toys might be primarily for pleasure, there are also benefits to be found in adding some tools into your daily routine.
Men in particular often struggle to introduce sex toys into the bedroom due to feelings of shame around exploring their sexuality. Those who can get comfortable with this might find that they actually get a lot of pleasure from things like prostate massagers and anal toys, or that they really enjoy when their partner uses a toy on themselves.
Getting comfortable with sex toys is really about getting comfortable with yourself and your partner. This often comes from being willing to be honest and emotionally vulnerable with someone.
After all, if you share your inner fantasies with the wrong person, there is a risk they could use this against you. This is why it’s all about saving these intimate details for someone you really have a strong affinity with. This will allow you to explore everything – including sex toys – in a safe space.
Once you can move past these myths, you’ll find that sex toys are far less taboo than you first thought, and likely to be much more common than you first realised. While people might not talk about it openly, you’ll find that most couples have a bedside table packed with sex toys, including couples and singles.
