Wondering what to give your other half for Christmas? The big presents are often the easiest, but it’s the stocking fillers that will leave you stumped. Whether you’ve been dating for a long time or you’re just getting to know each other, choosing the smaller gifts is often the biggest challenge.
Buying them something sexy and cheeky is a great place to start, as it is really a gift for both of you. It’s also a great way to introduce sex toys into the bedroom if you don’t already use them. And if you already use toys in the bedroom, this is a great way to branch out and explore new things.
So, what makes a good stocking stuffer? It should be small and discreet, the perfect thing to tuck at the bottom of their stocking as one last thrilling surprise. It should also be something you have either discussed in the past or you know your partner is willing to explore.
For example, if you know anal is off limits, your partner probably won’t want to find a butt plug at the bottom of their stocking. But if they’ve hinted that they would be open to this, then you know it’s an amber light to proceed with caution.
If you’re shopping for the man in your life, consider a toy he can use on his own. A Tenga egg is a great little gift that is sure to be popular. You could also choose something you can use together. A vibrating cock ring will help him to last longer while also offering pleasure to anyone on the penetrating end of it.
You could also choose something less conventional like a prostate massager. This can be a bit of a curveball, particularly if you haven’t explored anal toys before, but if you know your partner is adventurous, this could be a really bold choice.
When you’re shopping for women, the options are much more extensive. You could choose something small and discreet like a bullet vibe. You could also try something new like a Satisfyer.
Other excellent options for the bottom of her stocking include a finger vibrator or a butterfly vibe. A finger vibrator sits on the fingertip and transforms your hands into a pleasure playground. And a butterfly vibe attaches to the body with straps around the thighs. It then nestles into the clit for targeted stimulation that can be worn during sex or under clothes.
If you’re just getting to know each other, you might be willing to be a little more daring with your stocking stuffers. But proceed with caution if you do. If you get the wrong impression of your other half, you could risk damaging the relationship. Make sure you talk about introducing new sex toys into the bedroom so it doesn’t come as a surprise.
Small restraints, a paddle spanker or nipple clamps are great if you’re in an adventurous relationship. If you’re a little less daring in the bedroom, you might consider a cock ring or couples vibrator.
Maybe you feel like you’ve tried everything, or maybe you feel like the spark has gone out. Your stocking stuffer is a great opportunity to inject some passion back into the bedroom. You could choose something to spark new ideas like a sexy board game, card game or sex dice. You could also throw in a book or guide to help you explore new positions.
It’s also possible to go back to basics and choose something simple like a wand with attachments. You could also opt for something like vibrating nipple clamps, handcuffs or a remote control vibe. While these might not be your favourite toy, it’s good to remain open to new ideas as you grow together as a couple.
These are just some of the suggestions for injecting a little bit of passion into the Christmas period. Whatever you choose, make sure you commit to giving the gift with an open mind and positive attitude.
Sex toys can be interpreted as a message that you’re unhappy with your sex life, so it’s important to frame it in the right context. A little advance warning and explanation might even be necessary to avoid conflict on Christmas day. And it goes without saying that the gift should always be given in private to avoid any potential embarrassment.