Once you’ve passed the honeymoon stage of the relationship, it can be difficult to keep the spark alive. It’s not uncommon for couples to report less intimacy after a few years together, after which point the monotony of everyday life will take hold.
Some couples won’t settle for this and decide to take matters into their own hands. If the spark isn’t happening naturally, they’ll light a fire themselves. This kind of proactive approach can help you to keep the intimacy alive and to reignite the spark, but it’s not without effort.
Some people think that sexual intimacy should always come naturally, but this is a shortsighted view of the situation. It would be lovely to stay in the honeymoon stage forever, but at a certain point, you might need to put in a little bit of effort to keep the connection alive.
Effort can mean something different to every couple. It might simply mean scheduling time for sex, to ensure that everyday life doesn’t get in the way. Or it could mean creating exciting new scenarios to replicate the feeling of being with someone new for the first time. And for some couples, it’s about changing things up in the bedroom by introducing some new toys.
If you’re looking for a quick way to bring a touch of intrigue and excitement into the bedroom, look no further. We’ve got a wide selection of couples’ toys that would be perfect for bringing the spark back to your relationship. Starting with…
One of the reasons that passion can die between a couple comes from the lack of sexual satisfaction of one party, typically the woman (in a heterosexual pairing). If one partner isn’t satisfied in the bedroom, they might be reluctant to initiate sex. It can be harder to find satisfaction when you’re busy and your usual routine of foreplay goes out of the window. In this case, you need a reliable toy that will help get you there fast.
Wands are an excellent choice for couples as they have a large surface head which makes it easier to hit the right spot. Available in a range of sizes, you can find mains powered toys that will always be ready for action, or compact wands that are perfect for spicing up a quickie.
Bringing roleplay into the relationship doesn’t have to be cringe, but you both have to be on board with the fantasy. If anything about the fantasy feels demeaning or uncomfortable, the hesitation will be obvious to everyone involved.
Playing dress up with sexy lingerie and a pre-agreed roleplaying scenario can help you to get out of your own head and stop letting everyday life get in the way of your sex life.
If you’re bored of the usual routine, a common avenue to explore is BDSM. Popular themes to explore in this avenue of accessible kink include dominant and submissive roles. The simplest way to explore this dynamic is through the use of restraints.
Being tied up or tying someone up can open up the floor to new explorations. You need to keep an open mind when beginning this exploration together, as it might feel a little silly to start with. You should also make sure you have a safe word and read up on aftercare to make sure you are practicing this kink responsibly.
These hidden toys are designed to be worn discreetly in your panties and then controlled with a remote control or an app. This makes for some pretty risque fun if you dare to take this out on the town. There’s no better foreplay during a romantic dinner than getting the engine started before you’ve even paid the cheque. You might want to choose a louder venue than usual to make sure no one can hear the vibrations – or any unexpected moans.
If sex is starting to feel a little vanilla and routine and you really want to spice things up, consider putting anal on the table. You’ll need a few extra toys to make anal play worthwhile, such as an anal douche, training toys and perhaps a fun little vibe. The key to successful anal play is to go slow and don’t be afraid to use a lot of lube.
Anal sex can be incredibly pleasurable for both parties, but it’s not always for everyone. As with all sexual adventures, it’s only fun if both people are really into it, so make sure it’s something you both want and not just someone that one of you is willing to try for the other person.
You don’t have to resign yourself to infrequent or vanilla sex. If something is’t working, the best thing you can do is tackle the issue head on and change something. It might take a little trial and error – and some new toys – but good sex could be just around the corner again.
