So you’ve made the choice to invest in your first sex toy – an excellent move. The only problem is that you’re completely overwhelmed by the choice and quite terrified of some of the options available.
While advanced sex toys might make even the most adventurous person blush, there are plenty of beginner-friendly choices to ease you into the art of bedroom play.
If you’re looking for a solo toy, you might be worried about choosing something with an excess of bells and whistles that you’ll never actually get around to using. And if you’re looking for a toy to use with your partner, you might be worried about feeling a bit silly introducing something too hectic into the bedroom.
Thankfully, we’re here to guide you through this delicate process so you can feel confident in your choices. And who knows, this could open up a world of possibilities if you discover that sex toys awaken something exciting in you…
First things first, what are we looking for? A beginners sex toy should be easy to use and non-intimidating. It should also be quiet, as you might be a little bit shy about using it. It should also be versatile, as you’ll be far more likely to use something if it has multiple modes of use.
We also recommend choosing sex toys that are easy to take care of. Keeping your sex toys clean is no joke, and you could end up with infections in places you really don’t want infections if you skip this important step.
We also recommend choosing toys made from long-lasting, body-safe materials like silicone. These will be easier to care for and are less likely to lead to irritation. Now we know the basics, let’s look at some of the best beginner friendly sex toys to try.
We’ve included a range of toys designed for men, women and couples. These should help to inspire more play in the bedroom, so you can feel more confident and empowered.
About as small and user friendly as they come, this finger vibe is the perfect choice for solo women or couples to spice up their bedroom antics. It’s small, discreet, quiet and fits on the end of your finger. There’s no risk of anyone feeling intimidated, and it’s small enough to fit discreetly in your bedside table, so you don’t have to worry about anyone finding it. It’s also super easy to use, with three speeds and one pattern.
Rabbit toys come in all shapes and sizes, but this one is compact and versatile enough to get the job done when you’re home alone. Couples can also introduce a rabbit toy during foreplay. This one offers double motors and three buttons to change to vibe and speed.
The simplest way to last longer in the bedroom, this versatile cock ring is thick, stretchy and non-intimidating. It’s also incredibly discreet, so you can keep it in your bedside table for when you need it. If you’re looking to introduce sex toys into the bedroom but aren’t ready for buzzy and vibrating toys, this is a great place to start.
The perfect couples toy, this rechargeable vibrating cock ring offers a satisfying textured surface to help amp up the pleasure. The beads around the ring also help to increase pressure for more pleasure.
Wands are great because they offer a large vibrating surface area, allowing couples to explore erogenous zones with the plushy head. While some wands can be generally rather intimidating, this one is compact and regarchable, so you don’t have to worry about mains power cables getting in the way.
It might seem quite advanced, but a bondage starter kit can help you to explore your kinks together in a fun and accessible way. Once you get past the initial nervous giggles, you’ll start to learn what turns you on. You don’t have to dive in all at once, but rather you can introduce items slowly, exploring restraints, whips and clamps as you learn about this form of sexual exploration.
For women who struggle to reach orgasm, the Satisfyer range is sure to help. Rather than applying direct vibrations to the clitoris, it surrounds the area and then uses a combination of pulsing air and vibrations to edge you closer and closer to climax. It’s a great toy for exploring your own fantasies solo, or you can introduce it into the bedroom to help you reach climax with a partner.
A bullet vibrator is the perfect solo toy if you’re self-conscious about penetration but still want to explore your sensual side. It’s also great for couples, as it’s non-threatening and easy to introduce into foreplay. This simple bullet from Rocks Off features a colour-changing design that turns from purple to pink as things heat up – cute!
Anal toys might be pretty advanced for some people, but it’s another frontier worth exploring solo or as a couple. This set is made from soft silicone and available in 3 sizes, so you can start small and work your way up. And since they’re made of silicone, they’re much easier to keep clean.
Perfect for solo use, or during foreplay, this masturbator sleeve will up your hand job game. While some masturbator sleeves can be uncomfortable due to their anatomical appearance, this one is discreet and simple, with a unique textured inner to deliver newfound frontiers of pleasure. Simply add a squirt of lube to enjoy the full benefits of this toy alone or with a curious partner.
