When you want to shake things up in the bedroom, there is no better way to achieve this than with pegging. It’s the ultimate position change up, allowing you to change the bedroom dynamic like never before.
In this blog post, we’re going to explore the art of pegging. We’ll look at what it is, what you need to do it, how to start a conversation about it and how to make sure everyone is having fun while you’re doing it. Remember that pegging isn’t for everyone, so don’t worry if you aren’t ready for this sexual frontier.
Pegging is when a woman penetrates a man using a strap on dildo. It is the ultimate role reversal. While the man enjoys anal stimulation, women often derive pleasure from the contact with the base of the dildo, or by using an internal dildo.
Pegging is not only physically stimulating but mentally stimulating too. Few heterosexual men will ever experience penetrative sex. And few women will know what it is to be in control.
Despite TV shows like Broad City bringing pegging to a wider audience, there is still quite a lot of mystery around the subject. This is probably the reason so many couples find it difficult to bring it up.
If you’re interested in exploring pegging, you need to have an honest and open conversation with your partner about it. Pegging requires equipment and preparation, so it isn’t something you can spring on a partner in the heat of the moment.
If you’re nervous about bringing it up, try working the conversation into a game. Ask your partner what is the one thing they want to try in the bedroom but are too shy to ask.
If you are struggling to engineer a conversation, try watching something on TV that mentions pegging. Pegging is referenced in Peep Show, Weeds, Broad City, Dirt and Deadpool. If you want to explore the history of pegging in film, The Opening of Misty Beethoven is said to be the first representation of pegging in porn.
You’ll need to prepare if you’re planning to try pegging. You will need some kind of strap on to make this position work. There are so many different types of strap on to choose from, and each has its benefits.
A common misconception is that you have to be wearing a harness to try pegging. This isn’t the case, you can also hold the toy in your hand as you penetrate your partner. If you’re exploring pegging for the first time, this can be a far less intimidating way to try something new.
This is the most common kind of toy used for pegging. An adjustable harness will allow you to get a perfect fit and control the dildo with ease. Choosing a harness with an O-ring will allow you to fit any compatible dildo in the hole. So if you enjoy pegging, you could explore new experiences with a range of dildos.
This is similar to the option above but offers a little more versatility. Instead of a solid dildo, the dildo is hollow. This will allow a woman to wear the dildo (with an internal rod to keep it firm) or for a man to wear it over his penis. If you want something versatile and adaptable, this is an excellent choice.
As we mentioned above, if you choose a harness with a standard O ring, you can customise it with any compatible attachment. Choosing a vibrator instead of a dildo could help to ramp up the pleasure. A small prostate massager will help your man to achieve an incredible orgasm that is unlike anything he can achieve from penetration alone.
A strapless strapon is worn internally and you can derive a lot more pleasure from this kind of toy. They will often have a vibrating base that is worn vaginally. You might also find pleasure nubs to help stimulate your clitoris, or anal beads so you can both enjoy anal penetration.
With any kind of anal play, it’s important to go slow and be prepared. Many people feel more comfortable if they have had a chance to get everything clean back there, so an anal douche can help in this respect.
Using the right lubricant is also an important factor to consider. You want something thick and slick, to ensure that things glide a little easier. Be wary about choosing anything with a desensitising sensation as this can increase your chances of getting injured. When the area is desensitised, you can take things too far too quickly, and this will result in tearing.
A common worry that cishet men will have when they first learn about pegging comes down to their sexual identity. A lot of men worry that interest in anal penetration and pegging makes them gay or bisexual.
Sexuality is a complex thing, and having an interest in anal play does not change who you are or how you identify. Remember that this is a new sexual experience for both of you, so by framing it as a new encounter with your partner, you may find some reassurance. By opening yourself up to new possibilities for pleasure, you’ll find more enjoyment in sex.
Like any adventure in the bedroom, you should always have a safe word that can be used in the heat of the moment. You can’t create a safe word without having an open conversation about what you are going to do, so this is just one more way to make sure everyone is on board with what is happening.
Take it slow, keep your mind open to new experiences, and let your pleasure take the lead. Pegging isn’t for everyone, but some people find it liberating, empowering and incredibly pleasurable.
