Busy lifestyles and clashing schedules are often the downfalls of many relationships. When it’s new and shiny, you find the time for each other, but once you settle down into a routine it can start to feel like you’re living with a housemate rather than a partner. Bringing back the honeymoon phase is often touted as one solution for this dilemma.
This isn’t something that can happen overnight and both parties will need to put in a little effort to bring back the magic. But if you’ve even had a second or third go at your honeymoon, you’ll know that it is well worth the effort. Here are seven ways you can bring back the romance and reignite the intimacy in your relationship.
When busy schedules get in the way, it can quickly start to feel like you’re living with a housemate rather than a partner. It’s important to make time to spend alone together, and implementing a date night is a great way to do this. It might be once a week or even just once a month. What is important is that you carve out time for each other that other things cannot interfere with. No checking your phones. No working late. No talking about serious stuff like money. Just you and your partner reminding yourselves why you fell in love in the first place.
Getting away from the dirty dishes and towering piles of laundry is a great way to put yourself in a more romantic mindset. Book a weekend trip away, even if it’s only to the next town. You don’t have to spend a fortune, even just a night in a B&B in the countryside could be just what you need to spark some romance.
Eating is a very sensual act, and cooking together can help to create a strong bond between you and your partner. Making time to cook and eat a meal together once a week will ensure that you are spending quality time together and is likely to lead to more than just a meal. If you want to know how to make amp up the atmosphere, read our guide to libido-boosting foods.
The honeymoon phase often means one thing to some couples: sex. If you’ve hit a dry spell then trying a kinky new game in the bedroom could be the downpour you’ve been waiting for. Pick up some sexy dice and take it in turns to follow the instructions on the dice.
It might be a new position that you’ve always wanted to try but are afraid to ask. Or it might be a roleplaying game that gets you going. Or you might really want to bring a new sex toy into the bedroom. Whatever it is, experimenting with your partner in the bedroom is a great way to remind yourselves why you were attracted to each other in the first place.
Massages don’t always have to lead to sex. There, we said it. A massage can be a highly intimate act and build a strong bond between you. If you want to bring back the honeymoon phase by letting your partner know how much you care for them, then why not surprise them with some scented candles and a bottle of massage oil when they get home from a long day at work. Their stress will soon melt away.
One of the reasons that the honeymoon phase is so likely to go away is that we get used to being with the same person and start to take them for granted. If this is happening to you, try to make a little effort every day to let your partner know that you are grateful for the little things they do for you.
Once you start to acknowledge your gratitude every single day, it will soon become a habit that is harder and harder to break. Relationships are built on gratitude and being grateful for one another, so make sure this doesn’t get lost in the boring day-to-day mess of life.