Okay so you have decided to see what everyone is talking about – you are going to buy your first sex toy. Maybe it is to have a little fun time yourself or with your partner. You go a shop or maybe online adult toy sellers and the range is staggering – who knew there were so many variations? So where do you start when buying your first sex toy?
Let’s start with the very basics – what are the most common categories of sex toy and what is the basic idea behind them?
Vibrators are probably the most well known of the sex toys and their name tells you a lot about what they do. There are so many different types, variations, styles and even colours that you can spend a month just checking the different options. The vibrator is very popular because women find it easier to have an orgasm when they have clitoral stimulation and that’s where the vibrator comes along. There are also lots of different speeds and patterns to find something that feels good. While mainly for women, there are some that are for couples.
Dildos are for those who like sex toys that resemble the real thing and are designed to offer stimulation to orgasm. Again, there are lots of different shapes and sizes, so you can find something that is physically comfortable. Anyone can enjoy them, and they are often used by couples on each other.
Cock rings are used to help men keep an erection for longer. Made from stretchy material they are placed around the base of the penis and stop the blood flow leaving during sex. They are obviously designed for men’s use although their partner will enjoy the results.
Anal sex toys are designed for use in the anus and come in a wide variety of sizes and styles so there is something for the beginner and the more experienced sex toy fan. They can be used for both men and women and during couples play.
So that gives you some idea of the basics of the sex toy – but how do you go about choosing your first one?
Strangely enough one of the first thing sot consider when looking at your first toy is your budget. It can be a good idea to go for something not too expensive when you first start out because you won’t completely know what you like. You could spend a serious amount of money and find that it does nothing or worse, it is uncomfortable!
Another tip is to read up on what the toy does so that you understand what to expect. A good quality store selling sex toys will include plenty of information to understand the ideas behind the toys. And while you can do other things with them, always follow the instructions when you are starting out. Stories about embarrassing misuses of sex toys are real – don’t become one of them!
Websites will often include reviews from other customers and while you might not want to read about other people’s sex lives, these are a great way to get an idea about what people have found with any particular toy. Maybe they found it was great for purpose ‘a’ but not ideal if you want to do ‘b’ with it and it was ‘b’ that you had in mind. On to the next option…
As well as the basic ideas behind the sex toy and a few reviews from other users, it helps to understand some of the basics about the materials used in sex toys. Because these can have a huge effect on how the toy feels and also how long it lasts.
The idea may sound a little worrying, but the kind of glass used for sex toys is super strong stuff designed for the job. And there are some surprising reasons to consider it. For starters, it is smooth and pleasant-feeling. It is also very easy to clean which is something that should be a foremost consideration. You can use water-based and silicone lubricants with them and they are odourless.
Jelly rubber is an inexpensive material used for lots of purposes and can be made into almost any size or shape. There’s been some caution over it of late due to confusion around something called phthalates – chemicals added to make rubber flexible. Just look at the specifications when buying and avoid these that contain it. You can use water and silicone-based lubrication and the rubber is smooth and flexible. It does have a rubbery smell, obviously and there can be a chemical taste as well.
Silicone is a very popular material for sex toys for a number of reasons – it is non-porous and is also hypoallergenic. It is easy to clean, long-lasting and feels very good. It can be firm or flexible and can work with water-based lubricants, although you shouldn’t use silicone-based lubricants as this can spoil the toy. Smooth, odourless and tasteless, it is a popular material for all types of toys.
Plastic is so common life that there’s no surprise it is popular in the world of sex toys too. Many vibrators make use of plastic as it transfers the vibrations well and is strong. It also works with any type of lubrication and is smooth and strong. It obviously has a plastic feel that not everyone likes but you can get rubber coated plastic toys for a combination effect.
There’s a lot of decisions to make when buying your first sex toy or any number after that. Do some reading on the products and understand what they do. Don’t listen to too many horror stories about when your sex toy spy on you or people ending up in a hospital because most of these are just that – stories. Instead, pick what you like or think you will like, experiment and work from there.